Okay, so, it’s been a journey trying to get my Virgo man back. I messed up, no doubt about it. Virgos are, well, particular, and I definitely didn’t handle things the Virgo way the first time around. Here’s what I did, step-by-step, and I think (fingers crossed!) it’s finally working.
Step 1: The Apology (A Real One)
First, I swallowed my pride. This was the hardest part, honestly. I had to really look at what I did wrong, not just what I thought he did. I wrote him a letter. Not a text, not an email, a real, handwritten letter. Virgos appreciate effort, and they like things to be, you know, proper.
- I owned my mistakes. No blaming, no excuses. Just “I was wrong, and I’m sorry.”
- I acknowledged his feelings. I tried to see it from his perspective, which, let me tell you, is a very detailed perspective.
- I didn’t demand forgiveness. I just laid it all out and said I understood if he needed time.
Step 2: Giving Him Space (So. Much. Space.)
This was torture. Pure torture. I wanted to text him every five minutes. I wanted to “accidentally” run into him. But I didn’t. Virgos need space to process, to analyze, to… well, to be Virgos. I gave him complete radio silence for a solid two weeks after the letter. I resisted to send messages.
Step 3: Showing, Not Telling
After the agonizing two weeks, I started making small, subtle changes. I improved. I started taking better care of myself, and working on those flaws I identified. I posted some on social media, not super obvious, but a little showing my improvement.
Step 4: The Casual “Run-In”
Okay, this was a little calculated. I knew he went to a specific coffee shop every Saturday morning. So, I “happened” to be there too, looking all put-together and calm (even though I was a nervous wreck inside). I didn’t approach him. I just gave a small smile and a nod if he looked my way.
Step 5: The Slow Re-engagement
He actually texted me first! It was short, just “Hey, how are you?”. I kept my reply equally brief and positive. No drama, no pressure. We texted back and forth a few times, very casually. Then, he asked if I wanted to grab coffee sometime. I said yes, but kept the date light and short.
During coffee,I did things below:
- I listened more than I talked.
- I stayed calm and positive.
- I didn’t bring up the past unless he did.
Step 6: Patience, Patience, Patience
We’re still in this phase. It’s slow going. Virgos don’t rush into anything. But, the communication is back, the walls are slowly coming down, and I’m seeing that little spark of interest again. I’m focusing on being the best version of myself, and letting him see that. It’s not a guarantee, but I’m feeling hopeful. It’s about showing him I’ve learned, I’ve grown, and I understand what he needs. Wish me luck!
